What to say when you don't know what to say

Many people hesitate to offer comfort to those who are grieving because they think they don't know what to say and are afraid of saying "the wrong thing."  You are not expected to - nor can you (unfortunately) - "fix it".  Don't let this fear ultimatey prevent you from saying anything at all or keep you from offering what the grieving person needs most - YOU! 

So, here are some guaranteed, sure-fire, no fail, could-never-be-the-wrong thing suggestions:

• Open your arms. Hug person. Listen. Repeat.
  
• I'm so sorry for your loss; I don't know what to say. How can I support you?
  
• Open your arms.  Hug person.  Listen.  Repeat.
  
• How are you? 
  
• Open your arms. Hug person. Listen. Repeat.
  
• Just sit down next to them.  Be there.
  
• Open your arms. Hug person. Listen. Repeat.

It's that simple.